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Structured Debate

Preteen researches a real issue, builds arguments and rebuttals, and debates it respectfully with a parent.

Cartoon illustration of a parent and child at home doing Structured Debate.
  • Age10 to 13 years
  • Time30 to 60 minutes
  • EnergyModerate
  • CostFree
  • WhereIndoors
  • Prep5 min

Your child researches a real issue, prepares arguments and responses to the other side, and debates it with you in a friendly, structured way. A lively way to practise reasoning and backing up a point.

How to do it

  1. Together, pick an issue with two arguable sides that your child cares about.
  2. Decide who argues which side, including having your child sometimes take the side they do not personally hold.
  3. Give both of you time to jot down two or three main arguments and to guess what the other side will say.
  4. Run the debate in short turns: opening points, then a chance to respond to each other, then a closing.
  5. Afterwards, step out of the roles and talk about the strongest point on each side, with no winner needed.

What you need

  • Issue
  • Paper and pen
  • Device
  • Timer

Signs it is working

Your child prepares more than one argument rather than a single opinion. They respond to a point you made rather than only repeating their own. They can name a strong point from the other side when you review it

If it is not quite clicking

Your child gets heated: Pause and remind both of you that this is a game of ideas, then use short timed turns to keep it calm. They run out of arguments: Help them ask why someone would agree and why someone would disagree. The topic is too broad: Narrow it to one specific question

Make it yours

Younger, 9-10 years: Fewer arguments, no research step, and gentle topics such as whether homework should exist. Older, 12 years and up: Require at least one piece of evidence per argument and a planned response to the other side's best point. Siblings: Two debate while a third keeps time and later names the strongest point on each side.

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